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4 Struggles Of Motherhood No One Talks About


I’m going to be real and raw because whether you like it or not that is what being a mom is all about. Of course being a mother has moments that are like rainbows and butterflies. However, if I’m being 100% honest most of the time it can be a circus that you can’t help but love at the end of each day. I mean, being a mom is tough (and of course that is something you are told) but no one tells you about the real life things that go down behind closed doors. I’m not perfect and I don’t want to portray a perfect mom life to anyone. I have my breakdowns. I throw my own little pity parties when no one is looking (or when everyone is looking). Hell, sometimes I feel like I’m the child in distress. That’s the beauty that comes with laying yourself down for someone who isn’t YOU. Entering motherhood you lose yourself a little (sometimes a lot) but whos to say that you won’t find yourself again. And when you do… You will find yourself in love with ALL aspects of motherhood.



1. You will do things that you said you would never do

Remember that huge list of things you told yourself you “wouldn’t” do before becoming a parent? Yeah, you will probably go against your own words and do the complete opposite of what you had planned. The best part about this is that in the middle of letting your kids eat ice cream for breakfast you will remember how you said you wouldn’t be “that” parent yet here you are being that parent. What can you do? Laugh. Laugh until you have tears streaming down your face. Why? Because this is the reality of parenting. Some days you just give in to things you thought you would never allow and that’s ok.

2. You will be tired for the next million years

You will literally NEVER sleep. But coffee. Lots and lots of coffee. Funny thing is before having kids I hated coffee. Never drank it, never craved it. Now I absolutely need a cup of coffee every morning otherwise I will never make it through the day alive. You do the chores, cook, play games, drive to and from school, grocery shop, and even go to work. As tired as you are you push on through each day. And just when you think it’s time for bed you will lay awake until only God knows when thinking about all the things you have to do the next day (or if you’re anything like me anxiety will keep you awake). In the end, it will become something you get use to but I’m not lying when I say; you will always be tired as a mother.

3. You will cry tears of joy and you will cry tears of frustration

Everyday will be full of more emotions than you ever felt in your life. You will find yourself completely happy one minute and the next your wondering where you went wrong cause your child is throwing a fit over wanting the pink cup instead of the blue one. Yeah, who knew that the color of a cup would change the way your water tastes?! All the constant negotiation between you and your littles will get the best of you. And when you break down five times more than you did the day before that’s ok. You are human, which means you are allowed to feel. Motherhood will turn you every which way you could imagine. Yet you will find yourself wondering how so much love could fit into your heart that you will be humbled enough to forget all the little frustrations .

4. You will have days where you want to give up

There will be days that are hard, weeks that are hard, months that are hard. You will tell yourself over and over again that you just can’t take anymore of it. The house constantly feels full of chores and the mess never goes away no matter how much time you put in. Its an uphill battle of constant self doubt feeling like you aren’t doing good enough. Don’t worry though, every mom feels this at some point or another. You are not alone. My advice for you on those want to give up days is hide in the bathroom and cry while eating a piece of chocolate (that chocolate your kids don’t know about). At the end of the day giving up is not a choice because your whole family depends on you more than you know and honestly that feeling alone is pretty damn rewarding.


Motherhood is not a Pinterest board and its not an Instagram account that you follow. Social media will filter out all the bad that comes with the good and make it hard to be happy with how you live your day to day life. Motherhood is a struggle. Everything changes yet you are more “you” than you have ever been. Its beautiful.


Sometimes I feel like a bad mom, but all the time I feel like their mom. I carry their hearts in mine always and forever. You never know how strong you are until the only choice you have is to be strong.

Thank you for stopping by!

Much love,

Krissy

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Mother of two

Becoming a Mom for the first time

Was I ready? No. I had no idea how to take care of a baby, I was 21 years old and could barely take care of myself. I was scared. I knew having a baby took a lot of patience and care. I was unprepared for the drastic change that was about to take place in my life. I wasn’t ready. You can read all the baby books in the world but I promise you that no book can teach you how to be a parent.

Little did I know that this “uh-oh” turned out to be one of the greatest things that has ever happened to me. On June 7th, 2014 I became a mother to a beautiful little girl and my life forever changed. All the things I thought I “knew” about being a mother became non existent because now I was living it. Being a mother is putting someone else before you at all times. Its losing sleep, skipping meals, and no showers. The amount of selflessness it takes to be a mother is astonishing and beautiful. You learn as you go and find what works best for you.

My life was hers, she took lead and I followed

I laid with her during naps and would often fall asleep together. I’d wake up to her little hands touching my face. We would play under the covers or sing songs and laugh. It would end in me covering her in kisses. I never knew what real love was until I became her mama. She has taught me far more than I could ever teach her in return. I got to spend the last five and a half years of my life watching my bestfriend grow into a sensitive, loving little girl.

And then my belly started to grow

I was worried. Not about losing sleep, changing diapers, or my house being dirty. I was worried about us, our relationship would lose that close bond because we are adding another to it. A strange piece of me felt like I was betraying her. The days leading up to delivery were very emotional for me. I kept thinking about how all the time I spent loving her would be split and she wouldn’t understand why mommy no longer has time to be there when she needs me.

Welcoming our newest little girl

I was so happy the second Audrey arrived. I couldn’t believe how perfect and little she was. My heart was full and my life felt complete. But somehow I still felt sad, even when Sage was right next to me I still missed her. Even though everything was perfect I knew that it would never be the same because I have a new tiny person to love and cherish just the way I did with Sage.

Transitioning is hard

Just as hard as I thought it would be if not harder. I was recovering from a c section, trying to breastfeed, and take care of a newborn. Right when baby Audrey would start nursing Sage would need me for something. And everytime I respond with “just a minute, I’m feeding your sister.” Its all new to us; this big change. Now Sage is starting to feel what I feared.

Weeks pass by

We are all still adjusting to being a family of four. Going places is now something I avoid because I just want the comfort of home and everything I need at grasp. Being out and about is no longer relaxed. As badly as Sage wants me to do our normal things together, I want it too. There is nothing more I want than to give her all of me. I just can’t because I have less hands, less time, and worst of all less patience.

But now Sage has a sibling

It’s crazy to think that I felt like I was taking something away from her. In reality I have given her something much more. She has a little sister now and that relationship alone is much deeper than I could have ever I imagined. Bringing home a newborn made it hard to see that eventually they would become bestfriends.

Her everything

I can see their bond already forming. Sage is completely in love with her baby sister. Just as it was part of my journey to have more children, it was part of hers to become a big sister. All that fear I once felt has gone away.

A mother of 2

As I am still getting use to being a mother of two, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. Although I didn’t plan on this being my life God knew what he was doing. I was made for motherhood. Without them I am nothing.

Thank you for stopping by!

Much love,

Krissy

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4 Ways To Get Rid Of Mom Guilt

The thing about mom guilt is, well we all have it. Whether you are a young mom, single mom, working mom, stay at home mom, stepmom or whatever mom you are – we are all connected through the highs and lows of motherhood.

In reality a good mom has bad days and great days, normal days and overwhelming days, perfect days and trying days, supermom days and just being a mom days, a whole lot of love days and real crazy motherhood days.

I think this topic isn’t talked about as much as it is felt. At the end of each day I personally sit and reflect on all the ways I went wrong through my day as a mother. I let myself go down a rabbit hole of self doubt. I get so lost in these feelings that I forget all the beauty that also happened that day. All the laughs, smiles, and memories made together. So today; I want to reach out to all the moms out there who go through this and can’t seem to shake the feeling away. I am here to share with you 4 ways that help me lose the mom guilt that weighs me down at the end of my days.

1. No one can be a better mother for my children than I can

Say this to yourself out loud and feel how powerful this sentence sounds. This is very important to remind yourself when you are having major mom guilt. You and only you were made to mother your children. Nothing in the world can come close to the love and affection you provide for your babies. They count on you, confide in you, trust you more than anything on earth. Don’t take that away from yourself. You are exactly who your kids need.

2. I am an amazing mom, even as I work hard on becoming a better one

There are no rules to motherhood, you can be both a good mom and a flawed mom. Everyday you will learn something new about yourself and with that you apply it to becoming a better mom. Your kids don’t need a perfect mom but will appreciate a mom who strives to be a better one is some way. You are amazing even when you don’t feel it. Be gentle with yourself because you are doing the best you can.

3. The way I choose to parent is the best choice for my family

Remember when you found out you were pregnant and thought to yourself “how am I going to do this?” You did. Remember when you had a crying newborn and thought to yourself “how am I going to get through this?” You did. You made it through some of the toughest times as a parent and each time you thought you couldn’t do it but you did. You did this by choosing to parent how you felt is the best for your family. It doesn’t matter if its different from what you see others do, as long as you know that what you are doing will get you through. There are a million ways to be a good mom you are already making the best decisions for your family.

4. I forgive myself for my failures

This one is probably the toughest out of all the ways that help me ease mom guilt. Forgiving myself never comes easy because I feel so deeply that I have made too many mistakes as a mother. But that is wrong. Forgiving yourself is one of the greatest things you can do as a mother. Like I stated above; you are amazing WITH flaws. Once you are aware of your own flaws you can start to pick yourself up one piece at a time. Work on who you are and forgive yourself for anything you think you did “wrong.” Practice self care and know your worth. Don’t fall into a dark place over something that can easily be forgiven. Remember: little by little, a little becomes alot.

You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they will be a little bit older than they were today. So while you are sitting there drowning in mom guilt try to talk yourself out of it by using some of the ways I shared. Take a deep breath, enjoy all the little things because today will be over before you know it. All your children really want is you.

You are mom enough.

Thank you for reading.

Much love,

Krissy.

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Open Letter To Moms

Being a Mom is the toughest job there is and it doesn’t come with instructions. So, its okay if you don’t have all the answers you’ll figure it out as you go (or at least you’ll try).

As a Mother you often hear “you’re not doing it right.” Whether this is said because you gave your little chocolate for breakfast or they stayed up past their “bedtime” the previous night. No matter the situation; it shouldn’t be said at all. Truthfully speaking there really is no specific way to “do it right” when it comes to Motherhood.

Hearing “you’re not doing it right” come from another Mother may make you feel like they could be right. You sit there and think of all the ways you “can” be a better Mother and start doubting your ability to manage your own littles. Its an awful feeling and that Mom who stated it should be ashamed. There is no way to define doing something right or wrong for your children. Motherhood should be done by what you feel is the best for you and your family.

To all of you Mamas, I see you struggling in the grocery store with your temper tantrum, fit throwing littles. Its tough to go unnoticed while your little is screaming because they would rather have those gummy bears in the cart instead of the strawberries (that you know they love). All the glares you receive from others who might be thinking “my kids know better than to behave in such manner.” Which by the way, congrats to you supermoms! I’m glad you have it all under control and your little is a perfect angel. But for us real Moms, it can be embarrassing. Yet somehow you will manage to continue on like the soldier you are carrying your bawling little through the rest of combat. I just want you to know that I understand what is happening because in fact I was you last week.

Motherhood comes in all different ways. Such as having a strict routine to having no routine at all. Singing ABC’s or putting on a little gangster rap to make you feel free for those short 3 minutes. You could be the mom who joins PTA or the mom who doesn’t. There are soccer moms, dance moms, and moms whos littles don’t do extra activities at all cause they aren’t interested or you just don’t have time. There is one thing we all have in common and that is – being a Mother is hard. All of the advice, books, and classes in the world would never be enough to prepare you for Motherhood.

So if you see another Mama struggling with a screaming little, shoot them a reassuring smile to let them know that it happens to best of us. If you accidentally left the extra change of clothes at home or forgot to bring some snacks because you left in a hurry. Just know you are not alone and that everything you are doing will always be what is best for you and your family.

Thanks for stopping by..

Much love,

Krissy