Hiiiii & Welcome back to another awesome blog post from your favorite messy mama!
It’s been so long since I shared anything new on here with you guys. I figured what better way to catch you up on my life than through some words on my blog.
Let’s start by saying A LOOOOOT has changed. I believe my last post was about adjusting to life with two littles… well fast forward to 2021 & here we are expecting baby number three!
Yep. You read that right… T H R E E!
If I am being honest, this is as much as a surprise to us as it is to you! We always knew we wanted more kids but never knew exactly when. I think we both had different ideas of when we wanted to start trying for another baby… but God decided he had other plans in store for us! We are both very excited yet extremely nervous to add another to the mix. Once baby is born we will officially be out numbered, not going to lie though, we already feel like that LOL.
Baby M is due to arrive May 2022.
Going from 1 to 2 kids was extremely hard, the adjustment was intense for all of us. Sometimes I feel like Sage is still not even use to it. I have a few friends who have 3+ littles and when I ask them… “Was it hard going from 2 kids to 3??” Their response is always: “I’m not going to lie… YES!”
As much as I want all the little babies I’m fearful of not being able to be the best mother I can for each and every child. I fear that I will be so caught up in motherhood that I’ll forget to just live in the now and enjoy my babies while their small. I fear that I won’t be able to soak up every detail of each of their lives the way I was meant to. A part of me questions my ability on the daily. I get so intimidated at the thought that I won’t be sufficient enough for my littles.
But as this baby bean sprouts inside my belly, with all the hunger I feel (believe me when I say I’m forever hungry), the waves of nausea that come and go, all the heartburn, and emotions I feel.. God knew I was capable of being an amazing mama to my babies no matter the size of my fear. He knew that the good in me outweighs the bad, reassured me that through every storm in motherhood there is always a rainbow to follow. Our family was meant to grow at this time.
So here is to new adventures, new beginnings, new blessings, & new struggles. I’m ready to be tested to my limits and to LOVE a whole lot more. I can’t wait to share this journey with everyone. Stay tuned for more news on baby M.❤
The thing about mom guilt is, well we all have it. Whether you are a young mom, single mom, working mom, stay at home mom, stepmom or whatever mom you are – we are all connected through the highs and lows of motherhood.
In reality a good mom has bad days and great days, normal days and overwhelming days, perfect days and trying days, supermom days and just being a mom days, a whole lot of love days and real crazy motherhood days.
I think this topic isn’t talked about as much as it is felt. At the end of each day I personally sit and reflect on all the ways I went wrong through my day as a mother. I let myself go down a rabbit hole of self doubt. I get so lost in these feelings that I forget all the beauty that also happened that day. All the laughs, smiles, and memories made together. So today; I want to reach out to all the moms out there who go through this and can’t seem to shake the feeling away. I am here to share with you 4 ways that help me lose the mom guilt that weighs me down at the end of my days.
1. Noone can be a better mother for my children than I can
Say this to yourself out loud and feel how powerful this sentence sounds. This is very important to remind yourself when you are having major mom guilt. You and onlyyou were made to mother your children. Nothing in the world can come close to the love and affection you provide for your babies. They count on you, confide in you, trust you more than anything on earth. Don’t take that away from yourself. You are exactly who your kids need.
2. I am an amazing mom, even as I work hard on becoming a better one
There are no rules to motherhood, you can be both a good mom and a flawed mom. Everyday you will learn something new about yourself and with that you apply it to becoming a better mom. Your kids don’t need a perfect mom but will appreciate a mom who strives to be a better one is some way. You are amazing even when you don’t feel it. Be gentle with yourself because you are doing the best you can.
3. The way I choose to parent is the best choice for myfamily
Remember when you found out you were pregnant and thought to yourself “how am I going to do this?” You did. Remember when you had a crying newborn and thought to yourself “how am I going to get through this?” You did. You made it through some of the toughest times as a parent and each time you thought you couldn’t do it but you did. You did this by choosing to parent how you felt is the best for your family. It doesn’t matter if its different from what you see others do, as long as you know that what you are doing will get you through. There are a million ways to be a good mom you are already making the best decisions for your family.
4. I forgive myself for my failures
This one is probably the toughest out of all the ways that help me ease mom guilt. Forgiving myself never comes easy because I feel so deeply that I have made too many mistakes as a mother. But that is wrong. Forgiving yourself is one of the greatest things you can do as a mother. Like I stated above; you are amazingWITHflaws. Once you are aware of your own flaws you can start to pick yourself up one piece at a time. Work on who you are and forgive yourself for anything you think you did “wrong.” Practice self care and know your worth. Don’t fall into a dark place over something that can easily be forgiven. Remember: little by little, a little becomes alot.
You will never have this day with your children again. Tomorrow they will be a little bit older than they were today. So while you are sitting there drowning in mom guilt try to talk yourself out of it by using some of the ways I shared. Take a deep breath, enjoy all the little things because today will be over before you know it. All your children really want is you.