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4 Struggles Of Motherhood No One Talks About


I’m going to be real and raw because whether you like it or not that is what being a mom is all about. Of course being a mother has moments that are like rainbows and butterflies. However, if I’m being 100% honest most of the time it can be a circus that you can’t help but love at the end of each day. I mean, being a mom is tough (and of course that is something you are told) but no one tells you about the real life things that go down behind closed doors. I’m not perfect and I don’t want to portray a perfect mom life to anyone. I have my breakdowns. I throw my own little pity parties when no one is looking (or when everyone is looking). Hell, sometimes I feel like I’m the child in distress. That’s the beauty that comes with laying yourself down for someone who isn’t YOU. Entering motherhood you lose yourself a little (sometimes a lot) but whos to say that you won’t find yourself again. And when you do… You will find yourself in love with ALL aspects of motherhood.



1. You will do things that you said you would never do

Remember that huge list of things you told yourself you “wouldn’t” do before becoming a parent? Yeah, you will probably go against your own words and do the complete opposite of what you had planned. The best part about this is that in the middle of letting your kids eat ice cream for breakfast you will remember how you said you wouldn’t be “that” parent yet here you are being that parent. What can you do? Laugh. Laugh until you have tears streaming down your face. Why? Because this is the reality of parenting. Some days you just give in to things you thought you would never allow and that’s ok.

2. You will be tired for the next million years

You will literally NEVER sleep. But coffee. Lots and lots of coffee. Funny thing is before having kids I hated coffee. Never drank it, never craved it. Now I absolutely need a cup of coffee every morning otherwise I will never make it through the day alive. You do the chores, cook, play games, drive to and from school, grocery shop, and even go to work. As tired as you are you push on through each day. And just when you think it’s time for bed you will lay awake until only God knows when thinking about all the things you have to do the next day (or if you’re anything like me anxiety will keep you awake). In the end, it will become something you get use to but I’m not lying when I say; you will always be tired as a mother.

3. You will cry tears of joy and you will cry tears of frustration

Everyday will be full of more emotions than you ever felt in your life. You will find yourself completely happy one minute and the next your wondering where you went wrong cause your child is throwing a fit over wanting the pink cup instead of the blue one. Yeah, who knew that the color of a cup would change the way your water tastes?! All the constant negotiation between you and your littles will get the best of you. And when you break down five times more than you did the day before that’s ok. You are human, which means you are allowed to feel. Motherhood will turn you every which way you could imagine. Yet you will find yourself wondering how so much love could fit into your heart that you will be humbled enough to forget all the little frustrations .

4. You will have days where you want to give up

There will be days that are hard, weeks that are hard, months that are hard. You will tell yourself over and over again that you just can’t take anymore of it. The house constantly feels full of chores and the mess never goes away no matter how much time you put in. Its an uphill battle of constant self doubt feeling like you aren’t doing good enough. Don’t worry though, every mom feels this at some point or another. You are not alone. My advice for you on those want to give up days is hide in the bathroom and cry while eating a piece of chocolate (that chocolate your kids don’t know about). At the end of the day giving up is not a choice because your whole family depends on you more than you know and honestly that feeling alone is pretty damn rewarding.


Motherhood is not a Pinterest board and its not an Instagram account that you follow. Social media will filter out all the bad that comes with the good and make it hard to be happy with how you live your day to day life. Motherhood is a struggle. Everything changes yet you are more “you” than you have ever been. Its beautiful.


Sometimes I feel like a bad mom, but all the time I feel like their mom. I carry their hearts in mine always and forever. You never know how strong you are until the only choice you have is to be strong.

Thank you for stopping by!

Much love,

Krissy

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Mommy Must Haves For Newborns

WELCOME back to LIFE CHASING LITTLES

I feel like every mom has a preference as to what they love and works best for them so I felt like sharing all things that are MY favorite must have newborn items I absolutely LOVE. Each item listed has a link where you can purchase them through Amazon.


Disclosure: This post may contain affiliate links, meaning I get a commission if you purchase through my links, at no cost to you.


The first item on my list of must haves is this beautiful Itzy Ritzy boss diaper bag. It is one of those items that is a bit more pricey, but I promise that every penny spent will be worth it!

All the reasons why I love this product and recommend it to every Mama:

  • Size – The size of this bag is incredible! It has 17 pockets (10 inside / 7 outside). Pockets are a big thing for me cause I love organization, everything has a spot which makes packing neat an clean. It has depth which is perfect for packing all things little and big that you will need to bring along for your baby. If your anything like me; having room for each item you may need on the go is ideal.
  • Backpack – Love this feature! With my first I had an over the shoulder diaper bag and it would always slip off while moving around on the go. The fact that I can just throw this on my back and be hands free is awesome! Not to mention how comfortable it is to wear!
  • Stroller Straps – Each Boss bag includes 2 stroller straps to make long trips in the stroller super easy. The straps are removable which is awesome for when not in use. I love this feature especially when having a newborn! It is a bonus to have easy access to the diaper bag when you need something fast for your babe.
  • Changing pad – Like the stroller straps, each Boss bag comes with a changing pad! The changing pad is labeled at the top and bottom with “head” and “toes.” Perfect for when you are changing and can’t remember where the top or bottom is! This changing pad is also very easy to wipe clean, which is a plus for those messy poo poo changes. It has its own pocket as well, so don’t worry about it being smashed with the things in your bag.
  • Fashionable – Last but not least this bag comes in MANY different colors! For me I have the black one; only because it matches everything and black is life LOL. Itzy Ritzy provides other accessories that you can purchase to make the style of the bag more you. I honestly love all their products and how cute everything is. To go with my bag I purchased the wipe case to hold my wipes. I couldn’t be happier with it!

If you are interested in buying this product or getting more info on all it has to offer here is the link: https://amzn.to/366gePg


The second mommy must have on my list is Copper Pearl swaddles, 5-in-1 multi-use cover, and burp cloths. All of these items are truly amazing. From the quality to the texture and durability; you will not be disappointed!

My reasons for loving these products:

  • Quality – The quality of Copper Pearl products exceeded my expectations. They are so soft, super stretchy, and very durable!
  • Size – The size of the swaddles is perfect! They will be great for newborns and grow with them the first year (even longer). The burp clothes are SO big. I didn’t get any burp clothes at my shower so I went ahead and ordered some and these are big compared to other burp cloths. The 5-in-1 Multi-use cover can fit any car seat, shopping cart, and perfect room for breastfeeding.
  • Stylish – All of these products come in the cutest of patterns! From neutrals to dinos and flowers. So perfect for any gender. You can match each product or even mix n match if you can’t decide on what pattern you love. I ordered matching swaddle and cover, they are so cute!
  • Perfect gift – Each item Copper Pearl offers make such great baby shower gifts! If you know a mama who is having her shower I would definitely order her some products and I guarantee she will LOVE them.

If you are interested in purchasing any Copper Pearl items here are the links:

Swaddle – https://amzn.to/2q9Gfgo

5-in-1 Multi-use Cover – https://amzn.to/2N0lix5

Burp Cloths – https://amzn.to/2q5TChp


The third item I rave about to others is Ryan & Rose pacifiers. When I first came across these I fell in love with how cute they are! Who knew that a pacifier could be so cute? Not only are they cute but the company is AMAZING! Which is a huge plus for me, they truly care about their customers and it shows. For a pacifier they are a little expensive but does that even matter when you will literally have a paci that matches every outfit?!

Some people are against paci’s for many valid reasons and that is fine. If you are like me and plan on using them here are all the reasons why Ryan & Rose pacis are worth it:

  • Colors – There are MANY colors to choose from. That was one selling point for me because of all the outfit choices that I can with match these perfect pacifiers! They also have the cutest clips in many styles that you can purchase so your pacifier doesn’t drop onto the floor. I personally went a little crazy and even bought bows that match each pacifier. Its honestly so much fun!
  • 2-in-1 Pacifier Teether – This pacifier offers a 2-in-1 purpose; on one side there is the nipple for soothing and the other is designed for teething. I thought this was such a cool way to help soothe your baby when fussing and hurting from growing teeth. It is easy for baby to grip and chew on whenever they need comfort. It offers more bang for your buck as well!
  • Models – The pacifier comes in two different models. The first one is the round paci that comes in stage 1 and 2. Stage 1 is perfect for newborns and up, stage 2 is more durable for babies with teeth. They also offer a pacifier that comes flat for babies who prefer a more flat nipple than round! The coolest part is the company has a set of all 3 you can purchase if your not sure which one your baby will love.

Here is the link to purchase R&R pacifiers: https://amzn.to/31ZkWvc


The fourth item I want to share with you is Comotomo Bottles. These bottles are truly amazing, they are designed to mimic the breast which I though is great for Mamas who plan to breastfeed and pump. I personally love how they look as well.

All the reason why I chose to use Comotomo Bottles:

  • Natural Feel – These bottles are made from 100% safe medical grade silicone, so when you touch them they are soft and feel just like a breast. Since I plan on breastfeeding my newborn this feature is a plus because I feel at ease knowing she will be getting fed with a product that won’t cause much nipple confusion.
  • Easy to Clean – These bottles are dishwasher safe! This is so awesome for moms who don’t have enough time to hand wash all the bottles used. Just throw them into the dishwasher and your good to go! They also have a wide neck which makes it easy to clean for moms who prefer to hand wash. Not to mention they can be used in the microwave, boiling water, and sterilizers.
  • Size – They come in both 5 oz and 8 oz bottles. So as baby grows the bottle grows with them. They offer 2 different nipples; slow flow perfect for newborns, and medium flow for when they start drinking faster.
  • Colors – Comotomo offers these bottles in 2 different colors! Pink and green. I personally love both colors and will be using both for my daughter.

Here is the link for Comoto Bottles: https://amzn.to/2qat6TY


These are all products that I am using for my newborn! Each product listed has their own websites as well. So if you are interested in learning more about each company feel free to google them by name! I hope you enjoyed my must have list of products for a newborn.

Thanks for stopping by!

Much love,

Krissy

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Open Letter To Moms

Being a Mom is the toughest job there is and it doesn’t come with instructions. So, its okay if you don’t have all the answers you’ll figure it out as you go (or at least you’ll try).

As a Mother you often hear “you’re not doing it right.” Whether this is said because you gave your little chocolate for breakfast or they stayed up past their “bedtime” the previous night. No matter the situation; it shouldn’t be said at all. Truthfully speaking there really is no specific way to “do it right” when it comes to Motherhood.

Hearing “you’re not doing it right” come from another Mother may make you feel like they could be right. You sit there and think of all the ways you “can” be a better Mother and start doubting your ability to manage your own littles. Its an awful feeling and that Mom who stated it should be ashamed. There is no way to define doing something right or wrong for your children. Motherhood should be done by what you feel is the best for you and your family.

To all of you Mamas, I see you struggling in the grocery store with your temper tantrum, fit throwing littles. Its tough to go unnoticed while your little is screaming because they would rather have those gummy bears in the cart instead of the strawberries (that you know they love). All the glares you receive from others who might be thinking “my kids know better than to behave in such manner.” Which by the way, congrats to you supermoms! I’m glad you have it all under control and your little is a perfect angel. But for us real Moms, it can be embarrassing. Yet somehow you will manage to continue on like the soldier you are carrying your bawling little through the rest of combat. I just want you to know that I understand what is happening because in fact I was you last week.

Motherhood comes in all different ways. Such as having a strict routine to having no routine at all. Singing ABC’s or putting on a little gangster rap to make you feel free for those short 3 minutes. You could be the mom who joins PTA or the mom who doesn’t. There are soccer moms, dance moms, and moms whos littles don’t do extra activities at all cause they aren’t interested or you just don’t have time. There is one thing we all have in common and that is – being a Mother is hard. All of the advice, books, and classes in the world would never be enough to prepare you for Motherhood.

So if you see another Mama struggling with a screaming little, shoot them a reassuring smile to let them know that it happens to best of us. If you accidentally left the extra change of clothes at home or forgot to bring some snacks because you left in a hurry. Just know you are not alone and that everything you are doing will always be what is best for you and your family.

Thanks for stopping by..

Much love,

Krissy

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Parenthood

One of the toughest hoods you’ll ever go through.

This past Sunday we attended church. We try to make it every Sunday, but you know.. Life gets in the way. It was our first time attending in a couple weeks and the service spoke to me more this time than it usually does. You see, being pregnant takes a huge toll on a woman’s body. So what once was my normal is no longer existent. From cleaning, to being consistent with healthy meals, sleep, even attending church has become hard. My body this time around is restless and tired; things that seem easy to others are not so easy for me. With that being said one major thing I have been feeling is frustration. This frustration stems from feeling defeated in my daily routine. We all know as a parent frustration comes naturally of course. My frustration though, runs much deeper because of all my extra hormones that pregnancy has blessed me with.

At church the service was about “love.” All the aspects of love should be done with patience and kindness, it is not self-seeking nor driven by anger. Being a mother love comes naturally for your littles. Its a feeling you feel instantly and it never fades; only grows. Sometimes though, our littles like to test the limits of our patience. They do things that they know are going to get a reaction out of you. I’m not exactly sure why this is but it drives me crazy. My daughter Sage has a very stubborn personality and loves to be in charge of everything. I get it, you have your own voice so why not put it to use? I’m not against her having independence but sometimes she forgets that she is only five. This is where parenting becomes a challenge because she would rather listen to herself than her parents.

I often forget that that frustration can negatively affect the way you parent. I lose sight of what is and act out with a little anger and all my patience is gone. These past 8 months have been a struggle when it comes to being the best Mama I can be. The church service really put things into perspective for me and I have been trying to clear my head before reacting to things Sage says or does. So thank you God, for being the reminder that I truly needed in my life right now. Remember that no one is a perfect parent and all these feelings are normal to feel. Guilt can play a huge factor at the end of the day, just know that tomorrow is a new day for you to give your littles all the hugs and kisses that they deserve!

Love is kind. Love is patient. Love is pure.

Thanks for stopping by!

Much love,

Krissy